So here’s a confession. I am a control freak. In fact I am such a control freak I try to control my control freakism. If I had it my way I would pre plan every discussion, meeting, encounter and situation so it would go the way I wanted it to. In the past I would imagine upcoming events and discussions and try and envisage every possible scenario or conversation that might occur.

There are plenty of us out there. Outwardly we look very confident and in control, and possibly a wee bit on the bossy side. But I will let you in on a little secret – most of us share the same thing underneath it all.

FEAR

Deep down us control freaks have a very similar fear that we don’t even like to admit to ourselves – that something might happen and we won’t be able to handle it.  So here is what I have been trying lately, and boy it has been working a treat. I have been practicing letting go of control of future situations. Weird huh? It ain’t easy to start with, but it gets better. Here is what you do.

• Imagine a situation that is coming up, and you can feel yourself over analysing
• Literally hand it over to whatever you believe in – God, your inner guidance system, your intuition, the universe, whatever works for you. Say it out loud -” I hand this situation over, knowing it will work out for the best.” (roll with me on this one if it sounds a little hippy)
• Let it go. It will work out for the best and you can handle it.

It was tricky for me at first to believe that I had the inner wisdom or guidance to cope if I stopped  pre planning, but I learned a few things.

• If I am going into a situation without any pre conceived idea of how it must go, I am much more relaxed.
• Often the outcome turns out in a completely different way than I would have imagined if I had forced the situation, but it is actually a better outcome.

I am not saying don’t be necessarily prepared by the way. If you have a presentation coming up, or a job interview etc - do the preparation you need and be as up to date on information as you need to be. Then hand it over and don’t try to force the outcome.

Weird? Wacky? I don’t think so. Give it a go a couple of times when you notice yourself desperately trying to control an upcoming situation, and see what happens.

You can handle it.

cheers

Ali

Well hello there! You may have noticed there has been a distinct lack of blogging happening from over here over the past few weeks! I missed you !

I have good reason I promise you. First we went on holiday over Easter to the lovely sunny Hawkes Bay, and then left the kids up there with their grandparents and came home so we could get work done. It is the school holidays, so organising childcare can be a bit tricky. When we got home, I  decided to use my time sans kiddies doing some good hard thinking about my blog, and upcoming health coaching business and where they are going.

I am a big believer on listening to your intuition on things like this, and my intuition has been telling me loud and clear that it was time to make a change.

What Ali Did Next has been my baby for a year now, and I have loved every minute of it, but I now also have my studies at the Institute For Integrative Nutrition, and my coaching business which will come from that. So after a lot of soul searching, and some great chatting with my gorgeous coach Kris Britton ………..I have decided to combine it all together. I have planned for a while to call my business Nourish, with a focus on helping women to learn to nourish their bodies, minds, and souls.

It will take me a while to make all the changes I need to make on the website – tech stuff is not my forte (Any experts out there do let me know!!) For now, I have the same domain name, but I am moving to Nourish Body Mind Soul when I can. If you are a fan on facebook you will see the new change in name there.

I really hope you come along with me for the journey, I am sooooo excited. I cant wait to share recipes for the Body, Mind AND soul with you.

Cheers

Ali